Small country hamlets or villages appear infinitely more connected to their constituents than large cities. Perhaps the price you pay for this cosyness is a sense of losing your privacy. It's hard to argue however that smaller communities have a soul. a friendly energy that is inclusive.
Loneliness is considerably more prevalent in large metropolises than in quaint towns.
The glue that binds and bonds us to our fellow inhabitants is that of courtesy. It has been observed that the health of a nation can be measured by the degree of courtesy expressed by its people.
Having recently spent time in The US and Canada I observed particularly in the bigger cities a disturbing absense of connectivity.
Courtesy has its rewards. Everything is energy, and what we put out will always come back in some form. A door held open may go unnoticed and unacknowledged, a smile and an excuse me may be unseen and unheard.
We are all by nature empathetic, however the dynamic of crowds can desensitise until eventually we no longer see individuals but merely perceive a mass.
Occasionally this herd mentality is shattered. Earthquakes, terrorist fallout and car accidents jolt our senses into an awakening and the true nature and marvel of courtesy appears.
If there's a message it's this. Relationships with friends, family, colleagues and life partners hinge on the degree of incidental courtesy shown. Observe how married couples or parents and children interact. Please and thank you, acknowledgement and geniality, a spirit of emotional generosity are predictors of the health of all relationships - and their absense the core root of their malaise