The phone rings and you see a Category 3 contact, former work colleague, low value client and decide in the moment to ignore. Perhaps you receive a text message from a category 3 and decide they're not worthy of a 10 second reply. We share business cards, meet people at functions, workmates departure events and warmly declare ' let's stay in touch' then we ghost them.
We convince ourselves that we're busy and our 24 hours a day doesn't allow for interactions with a Tier 3 contact. One day our turn shows up. We're hurting, feeling raw, craving a little validation, our mojo having gone missing in action and we reach out, and no one's listening.
Acknowledgement has a profound ripple effect. Victim behaviour can be an unhealthy habit, but mostly in times of turmoil we reach out to reclaim our balance, not out of neediness.
I like to remind myself that someone I know, is today having the best or worst day of their life, maybe it's you and for all of us those two days will come. When someone reaches put pause before you hit reject, or revisit when a spare moment frees up.
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