The ‘self help’ author Wayne Dyer (Your Erroneous Zones) recently deceased, popularised, or some have claimed, plagiarised the works of Albert Ellis (Rational Emotive Therapy)
It’s timely to reflect on the key tenet of a lifetime’s emersion in pondering the bewildering functionality of the human brain and causation of equally incongruous human behaviour.
The prefix 'pseudo' fits very comfortably with Science and Psychology. That which cannot be measured, dissected and predicted with negligible latitude for error is often decried as ‘pseudo – something’
Despite the efforts of some of humankind’s greatest minds, not withstanding warp speed advancement in neuro science, our grasp of understanding the origin of even the tiniest nuances of human emotion and consequent behaviour is elusive.
One of the great break throughs, given breath by the aforementioned Dyer and Ellis, and originating from a field derided as pseudo pop psychology, is the truly profound observation that the elimination of just one word from our vocabulary can be profoundly transformative.
I doubt the combined community of erudite psychology professors; with their exhaustive studies and analysis of both behaviour and their counterparts the community of neuro scientists could distil such truth and wisdom from just a single idea.
So what is this dastardly destructive word and thought? The opening paragraph should have hinted at the answer. SHOULD!
Try imagining how your world would look in the absence of 'should.'
The universe is unfolding EXACTLY as it should. We may dislike the aspects of human nature that contradict our sense of cultural morality, we may wish the world vacated of psychopaths, zealots, egotists, the uncouth, the unfriendly, the unattractive, the unbelievers and ultimately anyone who disagrees with our particular worldview. Views which incidentally no doubt would makes us unpalatable to our 7 billion relatives
There are few things in life more predictable than that others will live their lives by different rules to us.
As with gossip, in small doses it can be bonding and allow us to vent our own peculiar prejudices, so too can expressing how the world should be different. In larger doses this type of thinking belongs in the world of Bart Simpson
We have a choice. Accept the status quo or make a decision to change it. Wishing and hoping is just dumb, or as Dr Wayne Dyer succinctly described - erroneous